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From Our Pastor ~ December 25, 2014

From Our Pastor ~ December 25, 2014

Dear Good People of St. Mary,

When I was home recently I asked my brothers if anyone was interested in keeping the log that has sat on our hearth since 1968. You see, it isn’t any log, it carries for me many memories of our vacation in 1968 when I was seven years old and we went to Wyoming and Colorado. While in Wyoming, my Dad, who I now realize was twenty-five years younger than I am now, had this crazy idea to take a tree trunk from a petrified forest park in Wyoming. As I remember it, these logs were just lying around as if they had dropped from the sky, for miles. There was a broken-down fence with gates that were open; I clearly remember knowing that we were stealing, but it was very exciting. We—my Dad, me and my eight year-old brother John—hoisted this thing weighing what seemed like hundreds of pounds, into the little red wagon we had been dragging my brother Bob around in, then put it in the station wagon, and this log became our travel companion for the next week until it found a home on our hearth. Actually, we rescued a number of them, but this was the granddaddy of all that we pilfered.

The log is something of a marvel; it’s a little hard to wrap your mind around it. It looks like a tree trunk, with bark and all, but it is stone. It was a mature tree that lived 225 million years ago. I wonder what prehistoric bugs are still preserved inside?

Somebody asked me why I wanted it? Such a heavy log-looking rock. So I’ve been thinking about it. It is the same reason we take out the same Christmas ornaments each year and put them on a new (or a newly assembled) tree that takes up space in our home. Sometimes each one of these ornaments carries a different memory with it. I used to enjoy putting up the tree with the family, we would recall different things—this one used to hang on our grandparents’ cotton-white tree with the color wheel that threw changing colors up on it. This one we bought in Venice. That one we made the year we moved to the farm… We would put the tree right in the middle of our great room floor and invite all the memories back into our home.

It’s the same reason we come back around each year to familiar songs and prayers. We decorate with old and newly-created decorations hopefully so that when we walk into church it is newly-assembled to feel fresh and new, and worn, and familiar and home. We have a Eucharist, and in our thanks come to mind all the beautiful and even sometimes tired and always renewing miracles of Jesus. His call is today, throughout the years. The whole family is back in the room, even those who are gone, and we find our anchor, this is really our place, and God is here. I am grateful that you are here with us for Christmas.

Too many people are off on their own today without an anchor, without a story. Let’s write the story for our generation and generations to come, together, here. Let’s enter into the Mystery of Christ as it unfolds this beautiful season, and enfolds us in love.

God bless you, and merry Christmas!

Fr. Don

From Our Pastor ~ December 21, 2014

From Our Pastor ~ December 21, 2014

Dear Good People of Saint Mary,

Already last weekend we had many people who were wishing us a merry Christmas and about to leave for parts all over to celebrate the holidays with family or enjoy a nice Christmas break vacation. For those who are traveling this week, we offer special prayers for safety. May all your visits fill you with joy and good memories; where reconciliation is needed, may unity endure; where understanding is sought, may it be found. May love be the guide for every word and situation. And may the mystery of the Son of God come to birth in a tiny child in obscurity always cause you to find wonder and awe at the desire of our loving God to “stoop down,” as the Fathers would say, to raise a suffering world with his caring love. Merry Christmas.

For those who are traveling, I want to remind you that you can always find our bulletins posted on line, so you don’t miss our greetings or any news about upcoming events in the parish. If you haven’t subscribed, all you have to do is go to our parish website (www.stmaryfred.org) and at the lower right corner of our front web page type your email address in the box and click on “subscribe.”

Giving can become such a complicated procedure. For many, Christmas has become the only time during the year when we remember each other with a card (how often do you buy stamps these days?) or bake something for our neighbors. I actually put “shopping” on my to-do list this time of year. We wonder if something has happened to someone because we didn’t get the usual Christmas card in the mail this year.

I have never liked shopping. I always wonder why I didn’t just get this done last summer when nobody was thinking about Christmas shopping yet? Every once in a while there is a nice spirit with so many people out and about and looking for that perfect gift for someone in particular, if you are lucky. More often than not I am grateful that some visionary invented the internet and the “shopping cart.”

I know a lot of families, especially older brothers and sisters, who have pretty much lost the spirit of giving. The calls come, eventually: “How much are you giving?” Of course, you don’t want to give more than somebody and make them feel bad. In the same way nobody likes to feel like they got the short end of the stick. For a while in our family we wrote checks to each other for the same amounts and basically exchanged bank balances, an equal transfer of funds. It was either give up on it all together, or re-think the meaning of why we give.

The truth is, giving can never become routine, or it isn’t giving anymore, it is just a habit. Giving is something that shapes us and makes us different from all other forms of life in God’s creation. We give because we are made in the image and likeness of God, who gives. He gives his Son. He gives his life on the cross. He gives his divine life in the sacraments. Jesus literally gives his Body and Blood, his life, his Mother, his Spirit, his Mission of blessing from the Father. How many times we read Jesus explain that the Father has given everything over to him, and all that he has received from the Father he has given to us?

Notice the gift is always the gift of self. It isn’t a gift card or a lottery ticket, or even a shiny new car with a big bow on the top. It’s something better. For this reason we often encourage our children not to think so much about buying something, but instead making  something of themselves to give at Christmas time. Something personal, because giving is meaningless if it doesn’t also involve a personal commitment of good will and love. The gift is only the expression of what is inside, a revelation, the invisible made visible.

Those actually are the words we use to describe Jesus at Christmas, the definitive Revelation, the fullness of love.

In these last days before the great Gift of Jesus, take a few moments in your busy day—commit to a few moments in each of the few days remaining—ask what might be your special gift to your family and those you love? To your parish family? What gifts has God given to you in particular? Ask God for the grace to be truly thankful for them, and truly strong in seeking ways to use them to make him known this Christmas, to bring him to birth in your life and make it visible. Above all, ask God for the ability to truly give yourself to him, and to those he loves.

God bless you.

 Fr. Don

From Our Pastor ~ December 7, 2014

From Our Pastor ~ December 7, 2014

Dear Good People of Saint Mary,

It always makes me stop and pay attention: each year as we begin a New Year of Grace with the First Sunday of Advent we reset the clocks and begin to unfold Christ in his Mysteries lived in the events and observances of the liturgical year. I guess “observances” is the wrong word, because the Word that we live is anything but a spectator experience. We are not standing by as passive observers. Rather, as member of that Body of Christ, it is we who are literally unfolded and brought to life again each year.

We start that year in the darkness with the light of only one candle—a light that grows, surely—but still one solitary flame. And a quiet call that is heard for the first time probably four thousand years ago by a man who had nothing but hope in a promise that he heard, no credible claim to any solution to the sin and pain that surrounded him in his world. The voice was speaking—why was Abraham the only one who heard it?—but all the same the promise gave him hope to leave his native land and follow a new God who spoke, listened, and responded. The novelty was breathtaking. God speaks. Listens. Responds. And his divine Action requires somehow that we interact, communicate, hear the promise, respond with faith (or not) and live in hope—that all might be fulfilled.

Now we hold on to that candle’s light and quiet Word that begins to grow, to explain and unfold: the Word-made-flesh fulfilled in his utter silence and desolation of the Cross; the flame to be fulfilled in the Easter Candle of resurrection only five months from now, “a flame divided but undimmed” as it is spread throughout the assembly at the celebration of Baptism at the Vigil Mass. By it we are redeemed and our sins forgiven, the promise of new life is real.

“But I don’t know how to pray,” we say. How can I make a return for the goodness of God? I think the first clue is that God has given us this very silence. It isn’t necessary to fill it with our noise. How difficult noise makes our lives to focus, to concentrate on even the things we seek, not to mention the things that we find challenging! When people tell me they don’t know how to pray I always ask them what they are doing? Usually, it is many formulas. Like our words might work some kind of magic spell. Listen, my people: “my sheep hear my voice, and I know them, and they follow me” (Jn 10:27). I propose to you that praying isn’t doing at all. It is adopting a humility that says that what God has to say to me is so much more  important than what I might say to him. Doesn’t he already know anything I might say? Doesn’t he know my needs? Would not a loving God then seek to provide a remedy by a message? Praying isn’t doing. Ninety per cent of praying is simply listening. But we need silence and simplicity to be able to do it. Don’t think for a minute that the world doesn’t intentionally bombard us with more data than we can endure, just to keep us from hearing truth.

How can I make a return, then, for the goodness of God? Freely paraphrased by a responsorial psalm setting that I dearly love based on Psalm 116, we learn that prayer is the way we live, receptive to the gifts of God and ready to respond with love when called:

I will take the cup of life, I will call God’s name all my days.

How can I make a return for the goodness of God? This saving cup I will bless and sing, and call the name of God!

The dying of those who keep faith is precious to our God. I am your servant called from your hands; you have set me free.

To you will I offer my thanks and all upon your name. You are my promise, for all to see, I love your name, O God.

So join me as we enter the quiet and Advent beginnings of Christ himself. On a quiet cold night by the light of a candle, he is born in us.

God bless you.

Fr. Don

From Our Pastor ~ November 30, 2014

From Our Pastor ~ November 30, 2014

Dear Good People of Saint Mary,

Last weekend we observed the fourth anniversary of our church renovation, when Bishop Loverde came and dedicated the new altar on November 22, 2010. With so many new parishioners all the time, we realize that many don’t know the stories, the growing pains that the parish put up with, the real change that happened. Actually, there are too many stories to put down on paper. Somebody said the other day that we should make a brochure for visitors that explains all the art, the organ, the new design of the church. Well, not just for the visitors!

Recently I was adding some photos to a thumb drive for a class at Holy Cross and I came across my preliminary drawings for the new church. And a rare photograph of what the church used to look like. I have put it on page 10, where this article continues. I also came across my designs for the altar, ambo and font. Not too many people know about these pieces. They were skillfully produced by Pat Kearney of Kearney and Associates (also owner of Old House Vineyards) this side of Culpeper. The columns are solid cherry with oak inlays and support marble tops of limestone quarried from beneath the old city of Jerusalem. Think of it, a baptismal font made from the same stone that formed the bedrock for a hewn tomb where Jesus himself was buried. “In baptism we have died with Christ, that we might also share his resurrection.” The altar stands on 12 columns for the Apostles. The ambo stands on 4 columns for the Evangelists. The font? Three, for the Blessed Trinity. Each stone (also including the stone beneath the tabernacle) weighs hundreds of pounds. If you’ve ever been to Jerusalem, you will recognize the stone immediately: the old churches are all made of it. I put my designs here – they were made a bit differently in fabrication, but the idea is there. The altar worked better for the space with 3×4 columns rather than 2×6.

When we went to place the new openings in the back wall so that the sound from the nearly 4,000 pipes in the newly-constructed chambers behind would be clearly heard, we discovered that there was no steel in the wall! Those large beams that hold up the ceiling? They were supported only by masonry walls filled with construction rubble. The architect was astounded. It is certain that the roof would have come down in the earthquake that happened less than one year after our dedication. There was a gentleman in the church praying when the earthquake hit; I was outside with a man who was installing the new letters of the name on the front of the church and could barely stand in the parking lot. I ran in the church to see if he was okay. He was, but shaken. When I went in I saw the large crucifix shaking back and forth like a metronome.

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That man, incidentally, was one of our biggest critics. When we started demolition, it scared a lot of people. I remember him saying that what we had was good enough and at least we knew what we had. How were we to know what the church would become? He would repeatedly ask me, “What have you done to my church?” It was a mess, truly. We had walled off the sanctuary part of the church set up folding chairs sideways in the church with a little platform with a temporary altar in front of the cry room windows. It was the hottest summer on record; we survived with these bizarre little robot looking air conditioning units that puffed out a little cool air now and then. People were so patient. Now when people say it’s hot in church, I think, “Well, you should have been…” Anyway, he lived a couple of years following the dedication, and would be found every afternoon in the church praying —earthquake or not, I guess—and later told me that he came there every day because he didn’t know a more beautiful place to go.

There wasn’t a single curve in the church before the renovation. It had that kind of unbending 70s geometry. We had a vision  of what the Mass might look like in architecture with a back wall (raredos) which was made out of art and music. Art becomes organ and pipes become architectural elements. And the central focus of that environment of the Mass is unashamedly the cross of Jesus and him crucified. The cross is cured Virginia white oak from Powhatan; right at the crossing of the timbers is a tiny plug of dogwood, the Virginia state tree which, according to popular legend was the tree on which Jesus was crucified. After his crucifixion, it is said, the tree changed so as never to be strong enough to carry such suffering.

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We asked Orange, Virginia sculptor Thomas Marsh for a representation of the moment that Jesus says, “I thirst.” We look at Mary who draws all our attention to her Son in love. Jesus looks out and says his Word, and John suddenly looks out to see to whom Jesus speaks: us. It is the moment he is sent to carry this message both as apostle and evangelist. In this way we are brought into this traditional grouping of figures in a living way. At the base of the cross is the curve of the earth, an ancient traditional element. And where that cross impacts with the earth, like that earthquake, rippling circles go out from the center: first the steps of the sanctuary, then the pews. We become part of that echoing impact, formed in concentric circles that ever widen and flow out into the world after Mass is over, after the sacrifice is given.

The space of heaven (the order of archangels represented by Gabriel with the horn and ichael with the sword) is united to earth by Jesus and the saints, oil on panel paintings, with sculptures of Peter (with the net) and Paul (with the scroll) who concelebrate every Mass offered at Saint Mary. The saints, from top, left to right, are Miriam (Moses’ sister who sang and played the tambourine at the liberation of Israel through the Red Sea), David playing his harp, the prophet Isaiah pointing toward Jesus, the prophet John the Baptist pointing back to Jesus, Saint Anne for all grandparents, and Saint Cecilia with her pipe organ, the patron saint of music. We dedicated the church on her feastday. On the lower level, left to right, are St. Joseph, then the four patrons of parishes who were formed from Saint Mary—Jude, Patrick, William of York and Matthew, and Saint Leonie Aviat, founder of our Oblate Sisters of Saint Francis de Sales, whose relic was placed in the altar at the dedication.

Maybe we’ll write a book yet, but I thought this might be a fun way to observe our anniversary.

God bless you.

Fr. Don

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